The not-so-absurd correlation between grief, loss and anger.

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 I am sure I am not the only traveller on this road. And certainty doesn't bypass me further by virtue of the fact that humans tire. When we have become feeble, deprived, hungry and desperate for happiness, love and companionship, we become all of the ‘nots.’ 

Grief, loss and anger. 

Remember that the ‘nots’ do not mean we shouldn't have them. It means in this instance, the things we shouldn't be only full of. It means we should not bear those feelings alone on our journey.

As Shakespeare posed in ‘Hamlet’, to be or whether not to be is the question. To choose not to be is hating yourself for not being the person you have determined and to be is having sleepless nights worrying if you are going to finish it like so. Both indeed lead to immeasurable sadness. 
But that is the cruel loop. Damned if you try, hollow if you don't. Maybe the real war isn't choosing, it's surviving whichever one you do.

When grief, loss and anger infiltrate our space so aggressively, we become perturbed of the unknown. It is important we understand that the ‘nots’ are vital to our performance as occupants of earth. We must strive in this suffering. And we must not do it with bowed heads. We must take on the sea of troubles and oppose them. 

If you must, sit in your grief, express your fury and mourn your losses for those are what yields the uglier parts of us. We must in our hopes, never succumb to the ‘nots’ in its entirety.

Remember when the night is full of terror, do not turn to the ‘nots’ to alleviate your fear, for it shall remain steadfast even after the tide has passed. And you will have no strength to cast it out. So it will reside with you, within you. It will take charge with your children and leave you bereft. 

Seize it now.



https://open.spotify.com/track/3hRV0jL3vUpRrcy398teAU?si=o7dqTp5NQom9ecoGgYpsCw So we all feel at once.

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